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Thursday, May 29, 2014

Rest in peace Maya Angelou: A poem

I noticed why
My thoughts wander
In the still point

Of the sea and sky,
The strong current
Of your vitality

Exactly the distance
Of a sharpest focus
Found me in the eyes

Where words
Washed you up like music
Creating pulsing waves

In this graceful exit
Of the still beautiful,
Reverberating song. 

Monday, May 26, 2014

How to keep 6 of the misconceptions about life from happening

Life is not about perfection. That’s a given, as nobody’s perfect anyway. Everyone else commits mistakes. It is through these mistakes that we learn something from, for whatever lesson it must be.

But if getting wrong is something unavoidable, at least don't try to use life’s imperfection as an excuse to justify about such a mistake you have intentionally had devised to do so.

I’m very careful about giving advices to people especially with a topic that I know may, in one way or another, lead them to be in such a position by which they have to only choose between giving a nod and disapproval for a particular topic.

There is more to life than what you can just answer with a true or false from. But, then, this is my life and I am entitled to my own opinion just like everyone else to be also entitled of the same. So nothing could prevent me from doing what I am going to do with it. After all, life is all about making it all yours.

Life is more than just what measures it

When I was in my early 20s, I came across a book titled “How to achieve success” by Anant Pai. The book is all about motivating someone to be successful in life or in a particularly chosen field. It was filled with all the positive things the author could gather to lift a person’s spirit up.

I read it from cover to cover and all over again. I learned many good things from that book. But then one day, as if I woke up from such a deep sleep, I started to question about the validity of the message the book was trying to convey.  Like in this phrase, for example, “if others can, why can’t I?”

I began to reason out that life is more than just what measures it. The phrase “if others can, why can’t I” is both a lie and a truth at the same time. It is true because it will encourage you to become your best potential in achieving something but, on the other hand, it is also a lie in a sense that each one of us is gifted with unique skills and talents.

You could not become Michael Jordan, no matter how hard you try, if you’re not gifted to be like him. But you could still become the best version of what it is you’re very good at doing. You only need to discover your talent and develop it the best way you can. No need to compare yourself to others who excel in their chosen fields. But, rather, you can reflect on their lives and make them your inspirations as you nurture your own gift.

So what’s the point in saying all these? I’m wondering if I’m making sense at all telling these things, but then it makes more sense to me to think about not really minding  at all if I actually did or not. So here’s how to keep the 6 of the misconceptions about life from happening:

Misconception number 1: Life has to be fair

Your best take: Many people waste much of their time thinking that life has to be fair. The truth is it is not, or not always. You have to accept the fact that life is not always about doing you a favor all of the time.

Misconception number 2: Happiness is all about what you have achieved in life

Your best take: Many people think that material things and personal achievements could bring them happiness. But happiness is not about something you could link up with material things and events. You could never find satisfaction in everything material and the more that you desire for these things, the more that your dissatisfaction grows. Lead to live a balanced life, instead, and you'll get more than what happiness could bring and offer.

Misconception number 3: Life offers no reward in the end

Your best take: Some people consider life as the unrestricted celebration of the here and now. They don’t care about what will tomorrow bring or if it ever comes; their only concern is to do everything for what they can suck out of the moment, pleasures and all. The truth is life is like a computer. What you put in, is what will get out. What you sow is what you will reap. Do what it takes to be good and what is right. You will surely be rewarded for that.

Misconception number 4: Life is meaningless

Your best take: If life doesn’t mean anything at all to you, then you’re no better than the lower form of animals which only had an instinct to rely with. Only a human being can think rationally and along with it is the meaning of life he has to define. If you can’t quite find the meaning of life yet, be the meaning yourself.

Misconception number 5: Life is about waiting for something or someone to come in the right time

Your best take: It always has to start from you. In finding your soul mate, for example, you don’t only have to go and find that person but you should as well be the right person to come to his or her life. It’s most likely you would be able to find your soul mate in that way instead of waiting. Be the first to take actions, don't just wait.

Misconception number 6: Life is to expect something more from others

Your best take: You find it frustrating to find out that the people you were expecting to be more kind and generous are the ones doing the opposite. And the ones whom you thought were bad surprised you with their kindness and sense of humor when you got the chance to know them better.

You don’t need to live up to other people’s expectations in the same way that they are not obliged to live up to yours. As long as you’re doing the right things, aside from the good that you had, then life will be as beautifully thought as it was in the actual experience.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

A balanced life is the foundation of joy

What something that only offers you pleasure is not a sure guarantee for a happy, well-lived life. It is simply because pleasure is something a notch lower than happiness. It won’t substitute pure happiness for that matter. Joy is the highest form of happiness.

As for pleasure, you can buy it or acquire it as a gift for yourself. No one would really mind and it doesn’t really matter at all if who else will. You own it, so that’s yours.

But happiness is a more complicated thing to deal with than just plain pleasure. You have got to build it yourself. It has to be built. And you should have someone to share it with. As what Ralph Waldo Emerson had said about happiness to be like a perfume, which you can’t pour down on anyone else without getting some from yourself.

Of course, pleasure is a good thing. Hedonism is a way of life to some. It can bring you a temporary feeling of relief for what happiness can do something to complete such a feeling.

A balanced lifestyle is to simply just keep the balance in every area of your life

It is all about the harmony you had created for the physical, mental or intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects of yourself. It is to do whatever it takes to keep each of these said areas of your life to receive equal amount of nourishment.

A balanced lifestyle is to simply just keep the balance in every area of your life and to maintain such a kind of balance. A person can only be happy if he finds satisfaction and contentment of what he has had and do. The way to sorrow, insecurity, and discontentment are through the imbalances in any of these areas of your life has to produce.

Joy as the ultimate goal

To be joyful is to feel the real happiness. It is the highest form of happiness. It is a state by which every little facet of the person that you are is in complete harmony with each other. It is not about what life gives to you, but rather it is all about what you are doing with your life.

Finding joy in the everyday has something to do with the balance you had been keeping for your life. Joy must be the ultimate goal.

Be thankful in everything

And above all, be thankful always. To yourself, for having given the chance to experience life; to the people around you, for having contributed, in one way or another, in the evolution of the person that you have become; to the world, for letting you see her natural beauty; and to God, for all the good things that He has done. Gratefulness is a good happiness-booster.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

A well-balanced life: Live as if more is less and less is more

It is important to keep your life well-balanced, or otherwise it will give you wealth gain problems to deal with.

When Aristotle Onassis married United States president John Fitzgerald Kennedy’s widow, Jacqueline, it was, in my humble opinion, one of the most defining moments in his life. This Greek-Argentine shipping magnate was on the top of his world; he walks like a god.

What he wants, he gets. Life, according to him, is all about winning. He had this extremely compulsive desire to win in everything. So his winning of former U.S. first lady’s heart, among many of his other conquests, served to cement his mastery over such a mantra. Jackie was as popular as she was beautiful.

Winning is not everything

But what Onassis thought that winning was everything won’t always be the case. In the later part of his life, he was humbled down to embrace the facts of life not always going to his favor. He was diagnosed with myasthenia gravis which is an incurable disease of the nerves by which the body turns against itself.

On his grave, his closest friend Costas, lamented and was quoted as saying these words: “You taught me how to live. You taught me that the only thing needful in life is winning. We forgot we are not gods.”

Keeping the balance and moderation in everything is the best way to live

When you reached the point where your mind (intellect) is in total harmony with your physical self, then you were able to find your balance. It is in the way you handle life’s complexities and to replace them with a refined code of your own.

Winning is necessary only if it is aimed for the things that could nourish both the body and soul. Oftentimes, more people are motivated for the material and physical gains leaving the intellectual or spiritual aspect malnourished.

The math of life

What you will lack in quantity you will make up for in quality. But making it vice versa is optional. Quality should be the base by which the quantities (elements) of life revolve. So that’s the math of life, more is less and less is more.

No matter how expertly Onassis had amassed himself with enormous material wealth, yet he found himself wanting in the end. His existence became obese by neglecting the well-balanced life that he must have been living. 

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