job interview is a cut above the rest. Questions like "why should we hire you?", "tell us something about yourself'", "what is your greatest weakness and why?", "what is your greatest strength and why?", and "why do you want to work here?" should be answered to your interviewer's satisfaction. There are times, to be honest, when I felt really nervous as if like being on a trial for my life. I passed some, and failed some.
But then, no matter how confident you are and no matter how best you've answered the questions, your chances of getting hired depends on your interviewer's ability to gauge you as a person. It's not enough that the interviewer must be a psychologist but, if possible, as well a visionary and more. First impressions could be deceiving and especially because, in the first place, in a job interview you're going to market your self to the interviewer hoping to impress or convince him or her for approval.
I would like to say that an interview is a necessity but to know more of a person in depth and in general requires time and a process and not just in a single or a couple of interviews. The way we answered questions may define us of what we are as a person but our honest answer even to the most difficult of questions would be the best answer there is to be.
Last year we witnessed how Miss Philippines Maria Venus Raj answered the question that earned her fourth runner up for the 2010 Miss Universe pageant held in Las Vegas, Nevada. This was the question: "What is the biggest mistake you have ever made in your life and what did you do to make it right?" Her answer drew public attention especially because she claimed she had made no "major major" mistake in her 22 years of existence.
I'm sure many of you would disagree and believed she had never hit the bull's eye for the answer. But I'm one of those people who believed she answered it well though. Is she Miss Perfect? Of course, not. There must have been a better, much refined answer than what Miss Raj's but, being the person that she is and can be, her answer was the best answer. And we might haven't just probably been paying much attention to the question. The keyword is "biggest" mistake. She may, of course, have made many mistakes in her life but how can we argue with a person who considered all of those as just "minor" ones? Her biggest mistake is yet to be made. For me, her biggest mistake was this: for being the person to be asked of such kind of question and made it right through her answer. Now, that's a "major major" thing for us to think about.
In life, we are always consciously and unconsciously obliged to ask and be asked for questions. Our honest answers reflect the kind of person we must be. These questions could be a metaphor defining what we must have to overcome with in the process or they could simply be just that--questions. While most questions are easy, some will have caught us off guard we need to think hard for the answers. Have someone asked you hard questions or have you already been asking someone else about your most difficult questions?
I can still recall during one of those essay type examinations in a Psychology class way back in college when our professor(who is a gay) asked us to answer these 3 questions: 1. What would you conclude if the person you observed or talked with at behaved quite differently? 2. In what way you could confront your own behavioral problems? 3. What will happen if the society's expectation of role is violated by an individual?
Questions are meant to be answered. Here's mine:
Q1: What would you conclude if the person you observed
or talked with at behaved quite differently?
A1: He or she must have had suffered a certain psychological
problem. That person needs to be understood well.
Q2: In what way you could confront your own behavioral
A2: Simple. I am the one who owns this behavioral problem so there must be something I will do to solve it anyway. Actually, I would like to stress out that the first and foremost thing I will do has something to do with "adjustment". I had to adjust to cope up with situations where I know I had difficulty dealing with. In that way, my mind will be conditioned in such a way that behavioral problems can be corrected through the voluntary ways of the mind itself.
Q3: What will happen if the society's expectation of role is violated by an individual?
A3: The society as well as its processes continue no matter what. There's always got to be violators everywhere. That's a part of the scene.
I would like to ask you though. Am I making sense? Did you get my point? What's your favorite pet? Food? Color? Author? Sports? Music? Singer? Poet? So much for the questions but, "the important thing," according to Albert Einstein, "is to not stop questioning."